I told myself that I would write on my blog once a week, (this is the advise that I got from a fellow blogger), and I believe that it is reasonable, and I LOVE to write and don’t ever want to get burned out of what I love to do. My plan is to write once a week, every Sunday to be exact. I get most of my writing topics from inspirations that have happened throughout the day, or conversations that I have with my friends. And that is what inspired this post! A conversation with my friend (I will probably have many more posts that will be inspired by them, although I will not name them, just for their privacy, this one is from my friend J).
Ok, so my friend have just been blessed with being able to purchase a house (her and her husband have been diligently working to accomplish this goal) and it finally paid off! So proud of them!! 👍🏡👈. They are a young couple with a little daughter and with every relationship/marriage they are doing their best to make sure that they are providing a legacy for themselves. And they are doing an awesome job! 👏👪. As we were talking to each other about the stress that comes with moving (emotional, physical, and mental) she was explaining to me an epiphany she had during the whole process. I want to explain it in her own words, then you know I gotta tie it back to Jesus (yeah remember I am a Jesus girl) LOL. No seriously you’ll see…enjoy
So I was asking J, “how was the move?”
She told me that her and her husband signed their papers for their house on Tuesday and got their keys on Wed. Once they got their keys, they started their process of moving. They did not have too much help, it was literally the 2 of them and their baby, (and we all know that moving with a baby could be a little challenging), as they were moving she received a phone call from her mom (nothing serious, just small chat), but during the phone call with her mom she kept wondering “when is she gonna ask me if I need help? With moving or the least to babysit the baby?” But her mom never got around to offering so she shortened the conversation, got off the phone and kept moving her things (but all the while it was bugging her that her mom did not offer to help). So of course moving is already a strain, and now add frustration along with that, and it can become a recipe for disaster 😬. So she got so frustrated that she started crying and pondering on why her parents aren’t as supportive as she would like them to be (buying a house is a HUGE accomplishment, why aren’t they over here congratulating or at least helping??) Somewhere in the mix of all of this she decided to ask GOD “What is the meaning of all of this? Why is this such a hindrance for me? This has to mean something GOD? What are you trying to show me/ or tell me about myself?” And that is when it happened This is in my deep narrator voice (lol). GOD told her “PRIDE”, she needed to set her pride to the side and humble herself to ask her family for help! (I believe that once you take a look at yourself and see how you could contribute to make relationship/situation better then GOD can do what he needs to do in order to start working on your heart to mend the relationship/situation). Ok, so let’s continue, so she asked GOD to show her what HE is needing from her, and right away he answered! Sometimes be careful what you ask for because our GOD is a GOD that does not play, HE is on HIS A game at ALL TIMES! So her and her husband were the only ones moving the furniture, and this was extremely hard for her to physically move some things, so they were having a little bit of a hard time putting the couch inside, so they decided to stop and try again a little later, but her husband told her, “it’s ok, I guess we can just try again after you get off of work”.
She said when he told her that, immediately she felt stressed, and surrendered to GOD (I imagine her putting her hands up in the air and looking up, you know like what you see onTV,completely surrendering)LOL, anyway she finally said to GOD “ok, ok I will ask for help!”,
she picked up the phone and called her dad, but the phone was just going to voicemail, so dun dun dun… she had to ask her mom for help, isn’t it funny how GOD works things out? (She was forced to ask for help, otherwise she would have been struggling moving furniture she knew she could not move, and when she finally decides to ask for help, she tries to go about it the easy way and ask her dad but she cannot get through and is forced to ask her mom) DO YOU SEE GOD WORKING HERE PEOPLE?! Anyway so her mom and dad comes by and helps her husband with the couch, (which was alot easier to do by the way), and that part was done; but GOD wasn’t through with her yet. Later that night she still had it in her heart to ask her mom for forgiveness for HER ATTITUDE! Wow if that is not surrendering to self, then I don’t know what is. And by her letting her mom know that she was sorry for having the attitude that she was having, it gave her mom an opportunity to open up to her!
I love this story because it goes to show a couple of lessons. I love how J took the time to ask GOD “what are you needing me to learn from this?” I think that when you are asking HIM to show you what HE is needing from you or what is going on in your heart, or your attitude GOD can start to work on some things! In Ephesians 1:18 it says “I pray that the eyes of your heart maybe enlightened in order that you may know the hope of to which HE has called you”. When I re-read this verse I think of someone asking God to open up their heart to see what THEY can do in order to see the full scope of how and why they may be feeling the way that they do, and what does HE want THEM to do in order to bring peace to the situation.
How many times, (when something happens, or there is some sort of misunderstanding with someone), do we tend to blame the other person or people? When you can fully take the time to sit back and surrender to GOD to show you what HE can do to fix your attitude, I think that really shows maturity and growth.
Is there a person/situation that got your temper flaring or making you feel some type of way? I encourage you to take the time to step back and ask GOD to reveal to you your role in it, maybe then can you really and truly move on.
P.S.: Thank you J, for the inspiration.
Always remember “Never get too comfortable always put GOD first”