Suddenly Single Mom:
I have started reading again, and boy does it feel good. I remember when I was younger I would (from the time I was in 2nd grade till being a young adult) I have been an avid book reader. I LOVE TO READ!!!
But as life changed, and I became a parent, an employee, and my responsibilities got greater, it became increasingly difficult to continue my passion. But the same way that I found myself deterring from reading, is the same way that I found myself coming back to my first love! LIFE CHANGES!
One of my goals have been to start reading more, and it has been a little hard, (especially in the beginning). But I just started with setting my goal of reading a new book every month. I decided that every payday I will order 1 or 2 books ( I even made a list of the books that I would like to get). So in the first month I didn’t read anything, but it’s all good right?
Yeah I was a little hard on myself (making excuses about not having any new books to read), so that is how I came up with buying a new one every payday…but in the mean time I just re-read books that I had already. ( I will write about those in another post).
One of the first books that I would love to review (or let you know about) is a book that I purchased in Walmart called Suddenly Single Mom by Jaenette Hanscome. First of all I would like to say that I LOVED THIS BOOK! It made me laugh, cry, inspired me and everything else you can in between.
The title is the thing that caught my eye. Suddenly single mom, (that is the position that I am in), so when I picked up the book, I started to read what it was about so that I can see if it was something that I would hold my interest. So it did! And I bought it! And I am so glad that I did. So let me dig in and tell you about it.
Suddenly Single Mom is about a mother Jaenette Hanscome, that finds herself “suddenly single” (hence the title), but she was a married woman with 2 boys, and while she was on vacation she received an e-mail from her husband, that the marriage was officially ending, (they were separated for awhile, but she had hopes that they would be able to work things through). Anyway in the midst of becoming a single mom she relied HEAVILY ON GOD. Even in the way that she got the news that her husband wanted to end the marriage, (being on vacation, and surrounded by family, was one way that she seen how GOD was taking care of her all along. To take that situation and see how GOD’S presence was there shows great faith and courage. And that is what happens through out the whole book!
The reason why I love it so much is that it is obviously relatable (to single moms out there), but it was almost like she knew everything that I was going through, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. She addressed everything from her struggles when it first happened to income, to being worried about the boys not having their father around as much as they had in the past, to possibly dating, friends and family, the list goes on. And in every chapter I FEEL LIKE SHE IS TALKING TO ME! Along with her talking about these things, she adds a scripture and a question for us to ponder.
I do not know how legal it is to add anything from the book, so I do not want to do that, (a sista is not trying to get in trouble), but I honestly recommend this book to the single moms out there, especially ones that may be struggling with feelings of guilt, anxiety, or feeling unsure. This book will let you know that you ARE NOT ALONE.
Well I can’t resist, ( I hope I don’t get in trouble for this), but I have to give a few of my favorite quotes from the book.
Since being a (recently divorced woman, and a single mom of 3 kids), I have been through an array of emotions. I go from happy, to content, to sad, to angry, to disappointed! I think you get my point.
There was one day that I was feeling completely overwhelmed! I was invited to be on a panel at a church to speak to people about the dangers of being in an unhealthy relationship, my son is transitioning to high school, and work has been a little crazy. I remember going to the gym, (and riding the bicycle), and taking my the book so that I could read while I was doing my exercise, and in just a few chapters, the author captured all of my worries. There is a chapter called “Father Figures”, she tells the story of how her sons were being blessed with father figures around them, and that GOD has ways of using the people around us to fulfill what we NEED. This brings me to something that happened to me recently, as we were getting ready for bed my oldest daughter (who is 8 yrs old), told me “mom, do you know that we have 2 dads?”
I stopped what I was doing to give her my full attention, ( honestly I was a little worried about what she meant), I mean I am not dating anyone one. Is my child a prophet? Is she predicting my future? LOL. Anyway, so I asked her “what do you mean you have 2 fathers”
She said “yea, we have daddy, and GOD is our dad also”
As she was speaking that, I got so emotional. I didn’t cry, but in my heart I was so overjoyed. It wasn’t until my husband and separated that I fully turned my life over to the Lord. And since then I have been making it my business to be an example to my kids. So I pray with them, I show them how to pray, I talk to them about GOD…but to see the fruit of what I am trying to instill in my children it is overwhelming. But to know that the glory of GOD is in them even with all the hurt and pain that they may be feeling because of the change in their lives. That can only be worked out through GOD.
There is another chapter in the book called “Messed Up”
In this chapter Jeanette shares stories on how she was concerned on how her sons performance and progress. But in the midst of her divorce her kids were still excelling!
You see I work in a child development setting, (I am a supervisor for a child development program), I have my degree in Human Development, so I am knowledgeable in how important it is for kids to have consistency in their lives. I see kids that have 2 parents a big house, nice cars, and anything that their hearts can ask for, but the parents are not there for their child, or foster kids that come into the program (sometimes being taken care of to the bare minimum of the families that are serving them). So of course I am naturally concerned about how my decisions may affect my kids, (especially when it comes to something so detrimental as divorce). But in Suddenly Single Mom, the author has made it very clear, that I am not the only one battling with these issues, and frankly it feels GREAT!
I really suggest this book to my fellow single parents, it is allows for us to know that we are NOT alone. It is so worth it.
I hope that you are blessed by this post.
Always remember “Never get too comfortable, always keep GOD first”